Marriage today without a Prenup is Ignorance and it might cost you Big

Mackenzie Tuttle recently become the 3rd richest woman in the world, how? By divorcing the richest man in the world; Jeff Bezos. While the settlement was rather a peaceful one, in most instances it’s never the case. Rather, it’s a dramatic series of cases finally leaves a dejected man with half or more of his hard-earned wealth gone plus an endless number of alimonies and child support checks to write in the following decade or two. Why? They didn’t have a prenup.

On the other hand, casesof men who have lawfully been awarded a portion of their woman’s wealth after adivorce are very rare. For this reason, I believe that it is very ignorant fora man or a woman but mostly a man to marry without a prenup especially in thiscentury where gender equality has been corrupted by undeserved entitlement onboth ends.

First things first, aprenup; short of Prenuptial Agreement, is a written document that stipulateshow wealth, property and other things will be divided between a man and a womanin case of a breakup or divorce in a marriage union. Think of it as aninsurance cover, only that this time instead of the financing, you get whatrightly belongs to you and whatever else you agreed to share equitably.

The document may alsoinclude spousal support, terms for the forfeiture of property as a result of divorceon grounds of adultery and conditions on guardianship. A prenup is a contractwith well-defined terms on how things will be handled in case the marriageceases to exist; therefore, it treats marriage like a business arrangement

There is this commonbelief that a prenup is a guarantee for divorce; that once you sign a prenup,your marriage is doomed to fail. I don’t think so. That kind of perspective iswhat blinds people from the benefits of a prenup.

In fact, a prenup has thepotential to strengthen marriage and enable a couple to achieve tremendousfetes together like ensuring the continuity of a family business. Why? Becausethe marriage agreement reminds you to be realistic, not to be intoxicated byemotions.

Jay-Z and Beyonce signeda prenup that the latter would receive $ 10 million if the marriage ended in 2years and $ 1 million a year for every year they remained married until 15years. Timberlake and Jessica Biel signed a prenup that the latter wouldreceive $ 500000 anytime the former cheats. In both cases, the parties havelaid down terms for their union.

Normally, a prenup mainlystates that in case of a divorce, each party will take what belongs to themalone and leave and the custody of the kids is shared. But a prenup can spellanything as long as it matters to the couple

I think marriage has moreto it than love and if you base it on love only, you will quickly realize thatlove alone can’t sustain a marriage. Finances, irreducible minimums,fundamental beliefs and opinions, interests, etc. ensure its continuity

Secondly, althoughmarriage means oneness in everything, everybody has his own life. We havepersonal interests, goods, secrets, etc. and the assumption that these personalfactors don’t matter in a marriage is utter ignorance.

Thirdly, you can neverguarantee that the person you marry today will be the same person you will bemarried to 5, 10, 20 years to come. Humans are very dynamic and sometimesthings happen that change the course of life.

Nowadays the averagenumber of relationships people have before marriage is 5, and the reasons forthe breakups are rather obvious. What makes you think that in marriage theywill not be an issue? What makes you think you will meet that perfect partnerwho isn’t like the others? Chances are low and you need to prepare for theworst.

So what benefits do youenjoy from signing a prenup?

  1. You will both knowthat your partner is not marrying you for your money but for love andcompanionship. This not only applies to men but also women.
  2. In addition to amarriage agreement, it can define commitment actions for the sake of themarriage
  3. Protection ofchildren’s interests in worst-case scenarios.

But, isn’t marriage allabout love and companionship?

Technically andtraditionally yes. But right now we are walking on unprecedented grounds; neverwitnessed before. First, courtesy of social media platforms the world hasbecome a global village where you can interact and meet whoever you like.Secondly, more than ever before we have the freedom to do whatever we wantbecause customs have been eroded. Thirdly, gender equality is becoming areality and women are doing better what was thought to be a man’s thing;cheating.

We have become lesspatient with each other. In case of a disagreement, we are more ready to switchoff the lights and move to another room, than solve the predicament. Divorcesand separations are quite rampant these days and they come costly. The idea oftrue love is becoming vaguer by the day. Many will deny this but count thenumber of people you’ve dated before marriage? Was it all true love or were youjust messing around?

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